Dr. Neill Neill
People addicted to alcohol drink compulsively and often claim to have an addictive personality. It is a convenient myth.
I heard of a dentist who approached his dental work with compulsive attention to detail. His crowns had to fit perfectly. He was fanatical about bite adjustment and his workspace cleanliness was impeccable—all things I like to see in a dentist, because I do not like pain… or recalls.
Unfortunately, when his compulsive cleanliness extended to his front office and the waiting room, he could not keep his staff. His marriages didn’t last, because he imposed his compulsive orderliness on his family.
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Pop psychology has worked its way into our culture. If a man makes a mistake, its OK to blame it on something he ate or an addiction he has. Has pop psychology made it so people no longer have to accept responsibility for their own actions? Is pop psychology making us a society of victims?
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Tags: addiction, alcohol, alcohol blackout, alcoholic, alcoholism, cultural values, functioning alcoholic, moral evasion, moral values, pop psychology, psychology, victims
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A reader left a question on the article "Can you become Allergic to Alcohol?" Her question was
What is alcoholic neuropathy? Have heard the term and interested in understanding.
She went on to add the comment,
It is just amazing when you read the comments from other people, and it is like they are just describing the events of your own life.
Alcoholic Neuropathy: Symptoms
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Dr. Neill Neill will be interviewed by Kevin Midbo of People first Radio tomorrow noon, Pacific time. The interview will be about his new book on alcoholism, relationship survival and his own experiece with alcoholism.
Announcement from PEOPLE FIRST RADIO:
"Join us for the live broadcast of People First Radio
on CHLY 101.7 FM or listen online. Thursdays at noon.
The ‘Functioning Alcoholic’:
Relationship Survival"
Dr. neill Neill, a Vancouver Island-based registered psychologist, has written a book steeped in his own personal experience–and aimed at women who find themselves living with a "functioning alcoholic." Alcohol and alcoholism–cunning, baffling, powerful–are not just individual issues…the entire family is affected.
Neill Neill joins us to talk about his new book, his own experience as an alcoholic, and the issues associated with alcoholism and relationships.
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To join us for the program at 12 noon Pacific time, locally dial 101.7 FM or from anywhere go to
http://chly.ca. Part way through the program Kevin will announce a call-in number if you have any questions.
Neill
The following is an interview I participated in on IdeaMarketers.com for National Recovery Month.
September is National Recovery Month. A month dedicated to the message that recovery from alcohol or drug abuse is possible. There are many people who live with the secret that they have an alcoholic in their family. These same people struggle with questions on what they can do to help their partner and family.
In recognition of National Recovery Month, Dr. Neill Neill has submitted his responses to common questions partners may have in regard to an alcohol problem in their family. Dr. Neill Neill is an
alcoholism expert. He is a psychologist, columnist and author, who maintains an active psychology and life-coaching practice in Qualicum Beach, BC, Canada. He is consulting psychologist to a private addiction rehab facility for men. A significant part of Dr. Neill’s practice is with individuals and families touched by alcohol and drug abuse.
Question: You use the term "functioning alcoholic." What does that term mean, and how does a "functioning alcoholic" differ from an "alcoholic?"
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Jackie asked me how many drinks could her husband have in a day before she should worry. She says he drinks three or four beers in the evening on work nights and a lot more on weekends when he doesn’t have to go to work the next day. She thinks he may be a functioning alcoholic.
Kevin worries that his wife’s three or four glasses of wine in the evening could be the beginning of alcoholism. Alcoholism runs in her family.
Both Jackie and Kevin were quite surprised to find their partners’ consumption was well above what are considered low-risk drinking levels…
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"My Partner is a Functioning Alcoholic"
Being married to a functioning alcoholic is a big problem. Tens of thousands of families in North America alone are struggling with the issue.
For a minority of people social drinking can gradually deteriorate into alcohol abuse and eventually into alcohol dependence. The drinking could have started in a lot of different ways, but that’s not what’s important. What is important is that the drinking became a habit and the habit became alcohol dependence or alcoholism. It matters not a hoot whether the alcohol is in the form of beer, wine or hard liquor.
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Part Three of the Functioning Alcoholic
There is a third critical factor to bear in mind when questioning the functioning of a so-called "functioning alcoholic." The first factor to consider was whether the alcoholic is functioning generally in life, or just in one aspect of life, like his job. The second factor was whether the alcoholic in achieving his potential and pursuing his dreams, not just getting by.
The third factor has to with how long the "functioning," at whatever level, can last in the presence of alcoholism.
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Part Two of The Functioning Alcoholic
In The Functioning Alcoholic: Part One I argued that doing one’s job is not one’s only function in life. For the alcoholic to consider himself to be "functioning" he has to function in various areas of life, not just on the job.
Abandoned Dreams and Underachievement
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Mary (alias) recently took the Alcoholism Test and then emailed me. (She didn’t leave a public comment because she wanted her communication to be confidential.)
Although a few details are changed or omitted to protect Mary’s privacy, she began with
"I was researching functional alcoholism and came across your site. I took the Alcoholism Test to determine if my husband would be considered a functioning alcoholic. I have not yet spoken with anyone about this, but just researched Al-Anon and plan on attending a meeting…"
Mary goes on to make the following points:
- Married for 19 years.
- Husband a drinker, mostly drinking alone.
- He has been drinking more during the last 5-6 years (now more than two liters/week of hard liquor.)
- He is not abusive and does not miss work.
- He seems to have trouble remembering.
- He just seems out of it at night…
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